Parents try to do everything perfectly. We want our kids to act perfectly, look perfectly, love perfectly, and just be perfect. If we try to be perfect, we parent out of fear instead of what is best. Choosing to do one thing one time and not do the same the next time is parenting out of fear. Fear that our kids will rebel, fear we will lose control, or fear of being a bad parent. The opposite of love is fear. An unsafe environment instills fear. A safe environment rids itself of fear. Let’s think of fearful ways we react to our kids. Yelling. Blaming. Punishing. Shaming. Maybe even spanking out of anger. Choosing to be an imperfect parent is choosing to be a loving parent. So feel free to mess up. This teaches our kids the appropriate ways of handling imperfection when we own up to our mistakes. Simply using the words “I’m sorry.” or “Will you forgive me?” speaks more about you than anything else you can do.